A Definition of Meddling
Proverbs 26:17 (KJV)
He that passeth by, and meddleth with strife belonging not to him, is like one that taketh a dog by the ears.
The definition of meddling would be, taking up a strife (or offense) that is not their own – choosing sides.
As Christians we ought to love one another and pray that Christ be honored. There is no Biblical room for a believer getting offended for any reason– let alone taking up someone else’s offense.
A Trap in Meddling
Proverbs 20:19 (KJV)
He that goeth about as a talebearer revealeth secrets: therefore meddle not with him that flattereth with his lips.
Whenever we get involved in an offense that is not our own (and remember – the thing to do when we are offended is forgive.) we are blinded because we only know what the person whose offense we take up wants us to know.
A Priority in Meddling
Proverbs 24:21 (KJV)
My son, fear thou the LORD and the king: and meddle not with them that are given to change:
The subject of the offense should be yielded to God first and then to those who are in authority. The rest of us should pray for all involved love all involved, seek to see the Lord glorified.
A Conclusion Concerning Meddling
Proverbs 17:14 (KJV)
The beginning of strife is as when one letteth out water: therefore leave off contention, before it be meddled with.
Leave off contention.
That simply means stay out of it.
The best time for a Christian to back away from the offense is at the beginning. In the legal world they call it de-escalation. The longer the offense is carried the more damage it can potentially cause. Back out of it quickly. Apologize for anything you might have done to make things worse and step away so that you can pray for all parties involved.
Psalms 119:165 (KJV)
Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.
Matthew 6:14-15 (KJV)
For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
1 Corinthians 10:31 (KJV)
Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.